(A Teen’s Realization on Peer Pressure and Making the Right Decisions)
Maureen and Marina are twins and they’ve been each other’s rock ever since they were born. The pair were inseparable up until high school when Maureen met a transferee named Dina. At one look, you’d never anticipate that Dina was trouble. She seemed innocent and was in fact very respectful to Maureen and Marina’s parents whenever she was at their home.
When the two became close, they went to parties and did some stuff – drinking, smoking, and some marijuana. Marina was always shut out because she wouldn’t join them and that’s how Dina liked it. If she can’t control her friend, she’d dump her. Maureen eventually chose Dina over her twin because Dina was a lot of fun to be with. Marina had to beg her sister to stay away from Dina but to no avail.
Peer pressure kicks in
Dina was sexually active and she decided it was time for Maureen to “belong” to the group. She pressured Maureen into seeing and giving in to this guy named Kip who was a chain smoker and a marijuana addict. In short, Maureen surrendered her virginity to Kip and a month later, her menses didn’t arrive as scheduled. Maureen got pregnant, but she didn’t know she was pregnant right away. She continued with her drinking, smoking and pot sessions which resulted in a complicated pregnancy.
Consequences of giving in to peer pressure
Maureen and Marina are 28 years old now and they lead very different lives. Marina is still unmarried and is beginning her career as a dental practitioner. You could say that Marina chose to stay away from vices like smoking, drinking, and drugs while she pursued a medical course which is dentistry. She thought of her future first and fun was limited to clean enjoyment. It wasn’t a boring life for Marina. She too experienced boys and parties, but she always had a dream – I want to live a comfortable life after I graduate from high school.
Marina envisioned herself to have her own house, fully paid car, a long-term successful career and eventually, a family. A husband who is equally professional with two kids; Marina dreamed for this and it was her driving force back then.
Maureen wasn’t as lucky as Marina and that was because of her choice – that one wrong move of giving in to peer pressure. She stopped high school the year she got pregnant and was only able to finish two years after that. Maureen’s baby had a heart condition because of her smoking and drug use. She wasn’t also able to proceed to college like Marina. Maureen had to take care of her child and do vocational courses on the side.
Regrets too late…
If you ask Maureen, she will tell you that her biggest regret was choosing to give in to peer pressure. Now that she is mature, she understands that it was her mistake all along. If she had said no to smoking, drinking and drugs like what Marina did, her life would have been different. Having the baby was not a mistake for her, but she feels awful all the time that she has to work many jobs just to support her disabled child. Her money is not enough and her time is very little. Maureen is always torn between the many things to do and her life is truly stressful.
Marina, being single and who has achieved most of her dreams in life by the time she was 26, assisted her sister. First, she asked Maureen to speak with a therapist from this site. Maureen had to gain back her self-worth so she can fight her inner demons (depression and anxiety) and move on with her life.
Moving on with life
Speaking with a therapist has made Maureen a well-rounded person. She was able to forgive herself and has been very positive about life since then. While she works days, at nights Maureen goes to school and wants to finish a Family Counseling course. She aims to become a counselor someday. It has always been of interest to her and hopefully, she’ll be able to regain her life.
No one must suffer from past mistakes and the only way to go is onwards for the better, as Marina would say.